While O'Connor addressed the etiquette of where a male disposes of his semen, it didn't quite touch the perspective of the person into (or onto) whom the semen is disposed. 'And while many negotiations are more fraught than where to come, few occur with such speed and urgency.' 'A successful sexual encounter will require many negotiations,' she wrote. I found myself asking these questions this week, after writer Maureen O'Connor published an article in New York magazine discussing the politics of where to come. Do you shake it off, like a cat coming out of the bath or a Taylor Swift backup dancer? Or do you stand up and force it to seep out by jiggling around, like a preschooler at Gymboree? Do you wipe it down? And if so, who retrieves the towel? Do you do it in a house? Do you do it with a mouse? What to do after a guy comes? It's a question that comes up woefully infrequently during even the most candid conversations about sex.